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We are in engaged in a national conversation about consent, privilege and the patriarchy. It is bitter and contentious, and we find ourselves with even fewer role models than we might have previously believed.
As a reminder that there once were role models, helpers and forces of good in the world, I suggest the recent documentary Won’t You Be My Neighbor?, about the life and legacy of Fred Rogers, creator of the educational series “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood,” which ran from 1968 to 2001.
Won’t You Be My Neighbor? is equal parts breath of fresh air and punch to the gut. Fred Rogers believed that television was a powerful tool, and in fact it is. We are living in an era where its power is not being used for the greater good; it is almost impossible now to watch the national news without hearing words best defined by Urban Dictionary.
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Rogers was an ordained Protestant minister who spoke of tikkun olam (the Jewish value of repairing the world) after Sept. 11, 2001. He showed his viewers what integration looked like when he washed his feet next to the feet of an African-American friend during the most heated moments of the late 1960s. He explained “assassination” after Robert F. Kennedy was shot dead on June 6, 1968. Rogers explained death and divorce to a generation of young people. He taught millions what it meant to be a neighbor and a friend. He valued love above all else.
What we lack today goes beyond “bad television.” We are missing a voice of compassion. I don’t mean religious voices, as there is no shortage of those. Sadly, religion is more often a way to divide than to unite. I also don’t mean political leaders, as our political leaders have turned out not to be “leaders” at all.
I am looking for individuals who stand for all people, as Rogers did. Someone who looks for the common good, and who works tirelessly to find ways to bring people together. I wonder what Rogers would say if faced with what seem like some of our most diametrically opposed groups today in the United States: the Never-Trumpers and those who proudly wear MAGA hats. Perhaps he would see two groups that want the best for their families, and would see ways to bring them together. (It feels refreshing to hope.)
Won’t You Be My Neighbor? reminded me that we have come through seemingly impossible times as a country before — that our collective soul has been challenged. I wonder if what’s different this time is not only the never-ending news stream, and, of course, the particulars of the situation, but the ways in which we communicate with our children.
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It has been lamented before that our children are overprogrammed and our schools are pushed to the brink with standards and standardized tests. We have also managed to slip down the rabbit hole with character education and social-emotional learning. Somehow, rather than following Mister Rogers’ lead, rather than being responsive to what our children need when they need it, our school districts buy expensive social-emotional learning programs.
We spend thousands to import standardized curricula to teach young children about regulating their emotions, while never pausing to ask the kids in front of us what feelings they have, and why. Schools embrace “character counts” programs and offer students rewards for kindness, rather than simply expect kindness from everyone and model it ceaselessly.
What if we took the bold, brave step and did what Mister Rogers did in each episode: slow down? Rogers took time to explain things to his young friends: feeding the fish, how long one minute really is, how to control “the mad you feel,” and what it means to be a friend. Perhaps our classes would be a chapter behind in math. It is possible, even likely, that they would be better human beings learning math, better able to envision using their new skills in democratic ways.
Won’t You Be My Neighbor? was a reminder — not of simpler times, because Rogers was certainly not on the air during “simple times.” It was a reminder that listening goes a long way. It was a reminder of the void that we are experiencing, the void of morality, civility and moral, civil leadership. It was, in fact, a broad and open call for someone who not only can bring us together, but who can speak to our better instincts and remind us that they’re still within us.
This story on early childhood development and social-emotional learning was produced by The Hechinger Report, a nonprofit, independent news organization focused on inequality and innovation in education. Sign up for our newsletter.
Jennifer Rich is an assistant professor in the College of Education at Rowan University, and the director of research and education for the Rowan Center for Holocaust and Genocide Studies. Her research and teaching focus on “hard histories” (such as slavery, the internment of Japanese-Americans and the Holocaust), and how teachers can talk about these time periods in more honest and inclusive ways.
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