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Common Core math
Stacey Jacobson-Francis works on math homework with her 6 year old daughter Luci at their home in Berkeley, Calif. As schools around the U.S. implement national Common Core learning standards, parents trying to help their kids with math homework say that adding, subtracting, multiplying and dividing has become as complicated as calculus. Credit: AP photo

While doing a math problem with my six-year-old recently during a classroom session for parents, I barked at her, “Just put the number in any circle.” She looked at me as if I was speaking a different language. Turns out, I was. Her teacher, who overheard the conversation, corrected me. The sum, she explained, goes in the top circle. Three circles form a pyramid and the bottom stack are for addition or subtraction while the top is for the total. I wrongly assumed order was insignificant.

For months, I had been baffled by “number bonds,” a way of expressing math in circles that my daughter had to complete for homework. I never bothered to ask the teacher how they work. Instead, I soldiered on, demoralized but thinking, ‘Surely, I can do first-grade math.’ I’m not alone in my confusion.

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“If you don’t know how to do it, ask your child to teach you, to show you how it’s done.”

Parents across the country are trying to make sense of Common Core standards, a set of academic expectations that call for less focus on memorization and more focus on explaining how solutions were found and, in English, a deep probe of text.

Advocates of the program argue that the skills are still the basic ones we learned as children but in the new curricula developed around the standards, the questions are often presented differently. That often means homework, an age-old source of angst for many families, has gotten even more complicated. Parents, like myself, are trying to guide children through questions that make little sense to adults who were taught math using other methods.

Before you throw up your hands and walk away from homework – a recent study in Psychological Science found that math-anxious parents who help children on homework breed math-anxious children – experts say there are several strategies you can try that don’t require relearning arithmetic.


“The most important rule as a parent is to make sure it gets done. I may not have time to do an impromptu lesson on math but I can make sure everything is completed,” said Jason Zimba, one of the three lead writers of Common Core’s math standards and founding partner of Student Achievement Partners, a group that helps teachers with the standards. “It’s about managing work load and learning accountability.”

Although the father of two gives his children, ages 6 and 8, math tutorials on Saturday mornings, he says a parent doesn’t have to be a numbers whiz when it comes to homework.

“The math instruction on the part of parents should be low. The teacher is there to explain the curriculum,” said Zimba.

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Phoenix mom Kari Workman learned this recently when her fifth-grader was wrestling with a multi-step math problem and whining, “Oh, this is so hard.” As soon as Workman tried to look at the problem, her daughter snapped, “You won’t understand.” Mom called a time out.

“She was so frustrated that listening to me was not going to happen so I encouraged her to walk away from the assignment,” said Workman who is also a teacher. After a quick break, the 10-year-old returned in a calmer mood and solved the problem.


Not all children will find solutions on their own, and if they are repeatedly stuck, that’s a sign they aren’t getting something in class and it’s time to talk to the teacher, experts said.

“If they are struggling with homework, that warrants a deeper conversation,” said Denver teacher Lauren Fine. “Don’t wait for those parent-teacher conferences. Make sure you are in touch with the school.”

Another strategy, she said, is asking the child to teach you the concept.

“If you don’t know how to do it, ask your child to teach you, to show you how it’s done,” said Fine. Often, she said, the kids get it, but parents don’t.

“In the past, I might have sent home worksheets with 40 problems, now it’s a couple of problems and the student has to show multiple ways of how they solved the problem. That can be frustrating for parents because they just want them to get the answer,” said Fine.

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The struggle seems to bubble in third grade, said experts, when the math becomes more sophisticated. “It’s when it looks more different. It’s not just counting beans,” said Bibb Hubbard, founder of Learning Heroes, a group for parents.

“In the past, I might have sent home worksheets with 40 problems, now it’s a couple of problems and the student has to show multiple ways of how they solved the problem. That can be frustrating for parents because they just want them to get the answer.”

She acknowledged that watching children work through challenges can be tough for parents.

“The one thing we can reinforce as parents is that it’s ok for children to struggle. This is hard work. It takes time and patience,” said Hubbard. She likens it to learning how to tie your shoes. “It’s really painful to see them frustrated and angry. But I’m not going to tie their shoes anymore because they are 11.”


It’s ok, Fine added, for parents to show students how to solve problems using the ways they were taught in school – such as carrying numbers – as long as they are stressing that there are other ways to solve them.

Cece Hallisey, senior director of, a site that outlines the new standards and offers resources on how to navigate them, has overheard her husband doing this with their daughters.

“There is nothing wrong with them learning in different ways but I wouldn’t be stubborn about it. Parents can say, ‘Don’t be surprised if you learn it differently in school,’” said Hallisey.

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And don’t bad mouth the teacher or assignment, teachers say. Instead, when time is scarce and tension is high, find resources for homework help.

“It’s about saying ‘If I can’t do the homework with them, who can?’” said Fine. Her school district, like many, offers before-school tutoring and the library has after-school homework help. Friends, family, babysitters and neighbors are also good resources as are websites such as, which breaks down standards by grade and subject.

Some schools are holding workshops that teach parents about the math and writing standards that students are learning in class. Zimba says schools should be better at educating parents on the standards and how to best guide students through them. “I think more can be done on the parts of schools, state leaders and district leaders on communication,” he said.

In the meantime, he said, parents should take the lead.

“When parents are frustrated, it’s important that educators listen to them, but they can’t listen unless the parents talk to them,” said Zimba, adding, “Venting is one thing but if you really want to solve the problem the way to do that is to start with the child’s teacher.”

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  1. I still have my opinion about common core math after reading this article. As for asking the teacher for an explanation on how to help my son with his homework, well she won’t talk to us, answer emails and won’t return phone calls. I’ve had to resort to teaching my son how to do his homework my way even if it’s not what his teacher wants. One thing most teachers and government education officials don’t understand is how the real world works. For instance, if an employer sees one of their workers doing a task in a way that they see redundant or inefficient, the employee will not be employed there long. Today’s teachers are quick to jump to the conclusion that kids have a learning disorder or that they don’t pay attention. Personally, I think most of today’s teachers live in a fantasy land, and need to get back to what they were hired to do. Teach and help our children, not just hand them a packet of math questions to take home every night.

  2. I find the tone of the article quite arrogant and condescending. Therefore I will respond in like tone. As an aerospace engineer who contracts for NASA, I can confidently say, yes, I AM that math guru. When my child asks me for help math, I show her the most efficient and expedient method to solve a problem. She is a bright kid and gets it. Her one complaint is always “that’s not how the teacher wants us to do it”. Common core to me is just dumbing down math for kids who need help. It’s a one size fits all approach that punishes the truly exceptional student, like my daughter. It is a tortuous approach that adds no value for student who are just naturally good at math.

  3. Common core is making children hate math. I was hands off for several years nor did my daughter share anything about school. During COVID, I was able to see why. Common Core is overwhelming. Then I hear the teacher talking about Geometry. When I inquired about why a 3rd grade class was supposed to learn about Geometry when at that age I was memorizing and learning multiplication, the teacher gave me some BS answer about how kids need to learn the language of math, etc., etc. I called her out on the fact that the kids don’t need to know the language, but how to use it, and she had the vice principal call me. Come to find out, my daughter was not even able to add and subtract by 3rd grade and I’ve had to shell out a couple of thousand dollars for tutoring since the school wasn’t teaching her anything. Needless to say, I pulled her out of public school because it was not teaching her any basic education. Now we’ve moved to a more conservative state, are enrolling her in a private school and what d’ya know? They just changed over to Common Core math curriculum. Good grief!

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